So here is a short devotional thought for the blendermom/stepmom….
Ezekiel 36:26 “And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.”
During my engagement to my husband, I scoured the internet reading posts, forums, articles, etc….about blended families and being a stepmom. The relationship with my little 6 year old stepson was very important to me and I wanted to do things right. I remember reading forums, posts and articles about stepfamilies and stepmoms.
I was surprised at how many stepmoms are struggling. There were numerous posts about how the stepmom can’t stand the stepkids, or how the stepchild tries to manipulate to get more attention from their father, or that the husband doesn’t understand.
The thing is, the father and his kids are a package deal.
Maybe you are one of those moms. You may feel hopeless in your family situation but prayer changes things. Maybe it’s not the stepchildren, but your relationship with your husband that needs mending. God doesn’t want your family to fail. God wants your family to be strong, compassionate, and loving. And I truly believe it starts inside our own heart first.
I encourage you to pray for your husband and your children no matter how you “feel”. Ask Him to help you see them through His eyes and ask Him to change your heart. Ezekiel 36:26 is a promise that God will change your heart if you are willing and open. Don’t think for one second that because your family was a product of divorce that God thinks less of you! Remember that Jesus lived in a blended family…
1 Peter 5:7 “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.”
Let God work healing in your marriage and family. Let Him start by giving you a new heart.
families unbroken 
I wish our family had worked out like that! We are now “his” and “mine” it seems.
Oh that must make things really tough sometimes! I had several heart to heart talks with my hubs about this issue before we ever got married. We decided that we would try and make this blending a priority and put our marriage first ahead of the children…not to do them a disservice but to be stronger together for them. It helped a lot but we definitely still have issues crop up where it seems we are mine and his as well. It has taken several years to get the hang of it. You can email me and I can give you more details about how we went about it to get the kids on board if you want. me@blendermom.me Thanks so much for taking the time to read my post!!
There are certainly challenges with stepfamilies but I’ve learned that when we walk in love, then you can get through any challenge. Thanks for sharing.
Yes loving each other is so very important and so much goes into that “love” like trust, respect, and boundaries! Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and thanks for sharing your encouraging thoughts!
I absolutely love what you have shared here. Thank you!
I don’t know why I am just receiving a notification now that you commented. I’m sorry I did not respond til now. Thank you for letting me know that this spoke to you. It helps to know that we are not alone in this blended family arena! Hope you have had a wonderful summer!