During the service last Sunday, I was reminded of the story of Joseph and how his brothers sold him into slavery because they were jealous. But it wasn’t what they did that gripped my heart. It was his reaction when he was reunited with them years later!
Genesis 45:4-8 “I am Joseph, your brother, whom you sold into slavery in Egypt. But don’t be upset, and don’t be angry with yourselves for selling me to this place. It was God who sent me here ahead of you to preserve your lives. This famine that has ravaged the land for two years will last five more years, and there will be neither plowing nor harvesting. God has sent me ahead of you to keep you and your families alive and to preserve many survivors. So it was God who sent me here, not you! And he is the one who made me an adviser to Pharaoh—the manager of his entire palace and the governor of all Egypt.“
Have you been going through a really hard time because of someone’s actions? Having trouble trying to see the good in something painful? I have had trouble, especially in the past, of forgiving and letting go. I’ve wanted them to know what it’s like to hurt as they had hurt me or mistreated my family.
I’ve had conversations in my head that went a little like this:
Me: “But Lord, they hurt me so deeply and those I care most about! They can’t get away with that!”
God whispers: “Forgive them.”
Me: “But why Lord? They don’t deserve it! If I forgive they will think I’m ok with what they did.”
God whispers: “Extend grace to them.”
Me: “But why Father when they have not shown it to me; to my loved ones.”
Again He whispers: “They hurt Me when they hurt you, but you must forgive them as I have forgiven you. You must extend grace to them as I have extended grace to you. With their actions and in the pain you may have lost little but as My child, you have and will be given much.”
Joseph had every right and opportunity to have his revenge but he saw through the pain and instead extended grace and forgiveness because he knew that God had a plan for his life and God most certainly has a plan for us. Lamentations 3:37 “Who can command things to happen without the Lord’s permission?”
If I am holding onto the pain and anger placed there by others then my hands are too full to take hold of the beautiful blessings that God is trying to give me. Sometimes, He allows things to happen to empty our hands of all that mess, all that pain, all that bitterness so that he can fill them to overflowing with His goodness!
Ephesians 3:20 “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.”
I encourage you to let go of the mess placed there by the ex. Let go of the mess placed there by a family member. Let go of the mess placed there by a friend. Drop it and embrace all the good things God has planned for you.
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I like this a lot! You should check out my newest post, I think you would enjoy it. Same mind frame…
Perfect timing to read this post, Donna. I especially need it now since my only immediate blood family member (my father) took his life last Saturday. Sorry it took me so long to catch that you had commented on my testimony at BookofLifeTestimonies. We shall meet in Heaven if not on earth. Sheri
Wow Sheri, there are no words! We all have our share of extreme difficulties and every one is different. We have no way of truly knowing what the other is facing or going through but so grateful for a Heavenly Father that does. Praying for you that He blesses you in all you do. ~donna